Sunday afternoon, Mother’s Day, I found out news that made my heart sink, and then just hurt. On what should be a day full of love and happiness for all mothers; my best friend from high school was having the furthest thing from a good Mother’s Day. At just 10 months old her son went to be with God. Her 1st and only child died on Mother’s Day 2012.

All I know is that at 4am Sunday morning he was in the hospital and not doing well. I was in total shock when I found this out. I can only imagine the pain she is going through right now. I know there is nothing I or anyone can say or do to lighten this pain, but I really wish there were. She now lives in Chicago and I live in Memphis so we aren’t as close as we once were, but I still love and adore her as much as I did when we spending our days gossiping about cute boys and going to friday night football games.

For all those parents, soon-to-be parents, and one day parents remember that everyday with your child(ren) is a blessing. Even the days when you  are at your whit’s end and are ready to give up….that day is a blessing too. The next time you are ready to pull chunks of your hair out because little Johnny just put foil in the microwave just to see the pretty “fireworks” remember, it’s just a microwave. People have lived thousands of years without them and still do to this day. But I bet you can’t find a single mother that’s lost a child and doesn’t grieve everyday, and would gladly live without that silly microwave, over the loss of her precious angel.

This news has changed the way I look at my little boy. I already loved him to the ends of the earth, but having something like this hit so close to home has really opened my eyes to the possibility that everyday could be the last day I spend with Grayson. So, go hug your babies, big and small, and smother them with slobbery kisses. And don’t forget to just sit and soak up all the sweetness and love they have to offer.

P.S. – I know I didn’t give my friend’s name or her son’s name, but would you please keep them in your prayers. Pray that her and her husband’s hearts receive some relief from this pain and sorrow soon, and that they find the strength each day to keep moving forward.

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The husband is a total geek, and being a geek he tends to be an early adopter to new technology, software, hardware, and/or social networking products. Mr. Hubbers got his Facebook account back when he was in college. Me, they didn’t have Facebook (it was still just an Ivy League thing back then) when I was in college. Yes, people I know I’m old-ish, but I’m not that old. I only missed the boat by like 2-3 years. Sheesh. Anywho.

The hubs has been on FB so long now that he really can’t stand it anymore. You see, since he was single, and ready to mingle (sorry I had to type that I just love how it rhymes) and in college, he added anyone and everyone as a friend and ended up a few years down the line with like a zillion FB friends. Give or take 7 people. I, on the other hand, got a FB account after college while in a relationship (with Derek as a matter of fact) so I was a lot more selective with the people I added as friends. My friends list is limited to people I actually care to keep in contact with.

When Google came out with Google+ Derek was thrilled and hopped right on over. He doesn’t really ever check his FB account anymore and is always telling me or showing me how Google+ wins over FB. The only thing about Google+ is that they don’t have the massive amounts of people that FB does, but for the geeky community it’s pure bliss. I myself use both. Generally, whatever I post of FB I post on Google+. I’m all about helping new products grow, and giving things a fair shot.

In case you haven’t heard about Google+ it’s a social networking website much like FB, but tweaked to be a bit more user friendly. They have a wall for messages, and photo albums so you can share pics with the world. One thing Google+ does have that FB doesn’t is group video chat. Heck, video chat in general. It’s pretty sweet. If you haven’t tried it you really should. If you like it invite your friends and family. Who knows, maybe that anti-Facebook relative you have that refuses to get a FB account will sign up for a Google+ account simply because it isn’t FB. Click here to sign up for Google+.

But this isn’t a post about the difference of the two social networking sites. This is a post about showing my husband that every now and then Facebook can do a little good. For instance, today I had just put the baby down for a nap and started scrolling through photos in my FB profile pic album. The further back I went the more I started realizing what an amazing life I have, and that life was due to my amazing husband, Derek. Even before we were married our lives together were so much fun. Seeing those pics of all the good times and awesome moments we’ve had together brought to mind how truly blessed I am to have what and who I have in my life.

Derek was at work, but I felt that I had to share with him how much I truly appreciate him coming into my life. Everything that is good in my life is because of him, and I just had to let him know. I let him know via text message, but still….it’s the thought that counts. Right?

After all the sweet mushy thoughts were sent back and forth I let him know that he could thank Facebook for all of those sweet memories and words, and it was all because FB has been there through all of our relationship chronicling our day to day lives with pictures, words, and videos.

He agreed.

P.S. – For those of you who use Facebook, have you noticed how FB has been making quite a few changes in the past few months pertaining to permissions, posts, and pictures? You can thank Google+ for that. They appear to be trying to match some of Google+’s features that are causing some Facebookers to leave and join the Google Gang.

Jennifer,

I’m writing to you as your friend. You need to stop. Breathe. Relax. Let your husband do things without you making sure he is doing them correctly. He is a capable adult. You don’t need to micro-manage so many things you ask him to do. Just remember you married this man because you love and trust him. No, he may not feed the dog in the EXACT manner you do, or tie on her e-collar the way you do, but the dog will survive if he does it to your specifications or not.

Just look as Grayson and you will see that he is very capable of keeping another being alive beside himself. He has helped you raise a beautiful, bright, and smart son. And he’s still alive. Let him do things his own way. Do you really want to wake up one day and find yourself an overbearing, over-controlling, thingscanonlybedonemyway kinda wife? I didn’t think so.

When you feel the urge to criticize or correct stop yourself and ask, “Is he really doing something wrong, or is he just not doing it my way?”

Kisses,

Me

During the first few weeks of being a new mom people constantly asked me how I liked being a Stay At Home Mom, but at that point I was still getting use to being a mom. I hadn’t payed attention to the fact that I wasn’t at work, because to me I was constantly working…just at my NEW job. Not to mention, most women that go back to work get 2-3 months off. So, even if I were going back to the ‘old grind I still wouldn’t have gone back at that point.

I realized that this week would have been the week that I went back to work, had I not quit. Now I’m paying attention to the fact that I get to stay home, and not have to wake up and leave my little tyke every day. Now if someone were to ask me I would answer, “It’s the best thing ever! I get to hang with my little dude everyday. See him grow, and play with him all day long.”

Yes, I do miss being a part of the grown up world, but I fill that need by going on lunch outings with friends every couple of weeks. It really helps.

I’ve heard from my friends that did have to go back to work that the 1st day back is just awful (for mommy). Some of them told me that they cried after leaving their baby that 1st day. I can’t even imagine. I miss the kid while he’s sleeping. Sometimes I kinda hope he wakes up just so I can hold and kiss on him, but I don’t force it. I’m not that stupid.

I find it interesting that every time I try to burp Grayson after a feeding I burp myself.